Peace

[Smitty-48]

Yeah StA, Go Full Papist, if she stabs you in the back, that's on her. If she does do that, just gives you more time to try and find another who won't, though it would still suck obviously. But be careful not make your happiness dependent on her, then she has you by the balls, Smitty and DrYouth know.

There's no way to protect yourself from heartbreak.

You have to take the leap of faith, that's what separates the girl you love from the rest.

You can't make it transactional, love is not a deal, there's no contract

You gotta go all in, otherwise, it's not love.

It's not a "relationship". I have a "relationship" with my accountant, I fell head over heels for my wife.

[Smitty-48]

As to don't make your happiness dependent on her?

I can't tell someone that, because I am madly in love, there's no getting out now.

After twenty years if being married to my wife, I love her more than ever.

She's what I live for. She is my happiness. It becomes more intense, more ingrained as you go.

If I lost her, or if she told me she didn't love me anymore, I'd honestly punch out.

I saw what my father was like after he lost his second wife, and I don't want that.

It was like a shadow over him, it never went away, he never got over it.

He was just living for his kids, but I don't have any, so I would just go to the Lord.

[Smitty-48]

Like if you are afraid, if you are afraid to punch out and meet your Maker?

Walk away now. Just be a bachelor.

Because I warn you, if it is true love, you can never get out, it's for life.

I uphold the sanctity of my marriage, not because of a piece of paper i signed.

This contract is with God himself, till death do us part, for real.

There's no going back, the only way out, is over the river under the shade of the trees.

[StCapps]

You yourself said you got to do your own thing, and you got to give them space to do their own thing.

Tying up all your happiness in being together and being miserable every second you are apart is a recipe for disaster, clingy is not a good look.

Same concept Smitty, you seem to be misreading me here.

[Smitty-48]

You yourself said they got do your own thing, give them space, and you need your own. Same concept Smitty, you seem to be misreading me here.

I wasn't thinking of what you said, I was thinking about what the Doc said.

I can't say what is in another man's heart, but if he tells me it is true love, I know what that is.

It's not a "relationship" that you can simply move on from, it's not transactional.

Once you go in, you can never get out, it will become your happiness, you wont want to live without it.

[The Conservative]

Well I definitely try to be a better man for my wife, but I still gotta be me.

She knows who I am, she knows what I'm like, it's been twenty years, there's no going back now.

That being said, my wife is actually quite hard edged, she doesn't suffer fools gladly, she's just more polite.

Sounds like your wife and mine would hit it off like a barn fire.

My wife and I are a classic case of opposites attract.

I'm extroverted, she's introverted, I'm outspoken, she plays it close to the vest

I'm a troublemaker, she's a diplomat. I'm military, she's corporate.

My girlfriend before I met my wife was much more like me, but we fought like cats and dogs.

It was hot, we were attracted to one another, but we couldn't get along in a domestic sense.

I'm the introvert and the troublemaker. My wife us extrovert and the peacemaker.

I know full well what you mean by opposites attract.

It's good when you find the opposite side of the coin and it works out.

[StCapps]

You yourself said they got do your own thing, give them space, and you need your own. Same concept Smitty, you seem to be misreading me here.

I wasn't thinking of what you said, I was thinking about what the Doc said.

I can't say what is in another man's heart, but if he tells me it is true love, I know what that is.

It's not a "relationship" that you can simply move on from, it's not transactional.

Once you go in, you can never get out, it will become your happiness, you wont want to live without it.

You won't want to, but you probably should. You yourself have given your wife permission to move on when you go, I don't think you'd like it if she offed herself instead because she couldn't go on, anymore than she'd like it if you did the same. Your dad didn't do that, despite the ultimate heartbreak. If kids was his only reason not to, you need to give yourself something to live for outside your wife too, it's not about being afraid to meet your maker, everybody gotta die sometime, no need to speed it along voluntarily though.

[Smitty-48]

Sounds like your wife and mine would hit it off like a barn fire.

My wife and I are a classic case of opposites attract.

I'm extroverted, she's introverted, I'm outspoken, she plays it close to the vest

I'm a troublemaker, she's a diplomat. I'm military, she's corporate.

My girlfriend before I met my wife was much more like me, but we fought like cats and dogs.

It was hot, we were attracted to one another, but we couldn't get along in a domestic sense.

I'm the introvert and the troublemaker. My wife us extrovert and the peacemaker.

I know full well what you mean by opposites attract.

It's good when you find the opposite side of the coin and it works out.

i can only speak of my experience, and it's the most intense and tuly divine thing I have ever felt.

The love that I feel for my wife, from the moment I saw her until now, is why I believe in God.

[Smitty-48]

You yourself said they got do your own thing, give them space, and you need your own. Same concept Smitty, you seem to be misreading me here.

I wasn't thinking of what you said, I was thinking about what the Doc said.

I can't say what is in another man's heart, but if he tells me it is true love, I know what that is.

It's not a "relationship" that you can simply move on from, it's not transactional.

Once you go in, you can never get out, it will become your happiness, you wont want to live without it.

You won't want to, but you probably should. You yourself have given your wife permission to move on when you go, I don't think you'd like it if she offed herself instead because she couldn't go on, anymore than she'd like it if you did the same. Your dad didn't do that, despite the ultimate heartbreak.

If she killed herself, I would follow her : over the river under the shade of the trees.

[StCapps]

Like if the worst happens, don't kill yourself Smitty, that will make me a Sad Panda.