Peace

[Smitty-48]

I do prefer the company of women, I've gone from one woman to the next, I like to have them on my arm.

Like my father before me, I like girls. I like to fuck the daisys out of them, I like to be with them as their man.

At the same tine, I know a lot of them are cunts who treat guys like shit.

So I can sympathize with men who are in a rage about it.

To have a son with a woman, and then she betrays you, I can understand how that could burn you up inside.

My father told me from a young age; don't have kids with them, they've got you by the balls then.

[DrYouth]

I need to drastically limit my participation in this forum.

A decade ago when I started posting here, my life was completely shattered. I had lost my family. I was in so much physical pain that I could not work. I could not complete my PhD. The injustices heaped upon me by that family court system shot through my cracked life like a bullet, shattering me into so many pieces.

It began almost like a game. I posted as a character. Over the years that character bled into my real life, scattering the broken pieces. I am sorry for my part in the animosity we unload upon one another here.

I am completely in love right now and I cannot have these things in my life any longer. I knew from the start that there can be no other woman for me. I never believed it can happen like this. If this does not work out, then I have no idea what I will do. I cannot risk these toxic posting patterns I was locked into for so long sabotaging my one chance at happiness.

None of you know what I was like before when I was very high-achieving. I was such a different person, headed for either a professorship at a university or a job in a private research lab. Now it feels like all those pieces are assembling again. She unpacks me and analyzes everything so calmly. My life is coming back together and I have to focus on getting back to work as a software engineer, starting a homestead and, most importantly, pursuing my one shot at true love.

Be good to one another. You are not strangers. You have all been sharing your thoughts, dreams, and pains with one another, daily, for so many years. I am sorry for my part in the toxicity. I love you guys.

I'm happy for you StA!

But I want you to consider something.

Be careful about your fear of losing this woman.
Your life does not depend on her.
She may indeed be "perfect" for you right now and by all means be in love and get everything out of this relationship that you can.
In all likelihood you will both learn a lot and be better people in the end for entering this relationship.

BUT DO NOT MAKE YOUR HAPPINESS DEPEND ON HER.
That's too much pressure on you and too much pressure on her.
Pressure kills happiness.

Look at it this way instead.
No matter what happens ahead... enjoy the ride, learn about life, be the best you, you can be.
But do not succumb to the fear of losing this woman.
There is no ONLY chance.... there is no ONLY woman for you...

And hang out here to talk about it along the way.
Free psychiatric advice is free psychiatric advice after all.

Good luck in the relationship trenches... it's a hell of a ride.
It has made me a better human.

[Smitty-48]

Yeah, Dr. Youth speaks the truth.

Just be yourself, don't worry about pleasing her, she either loves you on your terms, or she doesn't.

I love my wife, but she has to take me as I am, I don't change myself, she loves me faults n' all.

[The Conservative]

Yeah, Dr. Youth speaks the truth.

Just be yourself, don't worry about pleasing her, she either loves you on your terms, or she doesn't.

I love my wife, but she has to take me as I am, I don't change myself, she loves me faults n' all.

My wife is the same way, but they do change us in subtle ways. Mostly for the better.

[SuburbanFarmer]

Hey congrats, man. Sounds like you landed a good one.

I don’t play a character on here or anywhere, but hopefully those that do can learn from your example.

[Smitty-48]

Yeah, Dr. Youth speaks the truth.

Just be yourself, don't worry about pleasing her, she either loves you on your terms, or she doesn't.

I love my wife, but she has to take me as I am, I don't change myself, she loves me faults n' all.

My wife is the same way, but they do change us in subtle ways. Mostly for the better.

Well I definitely try to be a better man for my wife, but I still gotta be me.

She knows who I am, she knows what I'm like, it's been twenty years, there's no going back now.

That being said, my wife is actually quite hard edged, she doesn't suffer fools gladly, she's just more polite.

[The Conservative]

Yeah, Dr. Youth speaks the truth.

Just be yourself, don't worry about pleasing her, she either loves you on your terms, or she doesn't.

I love my wife, but she has to take me as I am, I don't change myself, she loves me faults n' all.

My wife is the same way, but they do change us in subtle ways. Mostly for the better.

Well I definitely try to be a better man for my wife, but I still gotta be me.

She knows who I am, she knows what I'm like, it's been twenty years, there's no going back now.

That being said, my wife is actually quite hard edged, she doesn't suffer fools gladly, she's just more polite.

Sounds like your wife and mine would hit it off like a barn fire.

[Smitty-48]

My wife is the same way, but they do change us in subtle ways. Mostly for the better.

Well I definitely try to be a better man for my wife, but I still gotta be me.

She knows who I am, she knows what I'm like, it's been twenty years, there's no going back now.

That being said, my wife is actually quite hard edged, she doesn't suffer fools gladly, she's just more polite.

Sounds like your wife and mine would hit it off like a barn fire.

My wife and I are a classic case of opposites attract.

I'm extroverted, she's introverted, I'm outspoken, she plays it close to the vest

I'm a troublemaker, she's a diplomat. I'm military, she's corporate.

My girlfriend before I met my wife was much more like me, but we fought like cats and dogs.

It was hot, we were attracted to one another, but we couldn't get along in a domestic sense.

[Smitty-48]

She may indeed be "perfect" for you right now and by all means be in love and get everything out of this relationship that you can.
In all likelihood you will both learn a lot and be better people in the end for entering this relationship.

Still, it's okay to commit. Specially for a devout Papist.

They're not the casual dating types. It's okay to seek out a wife. It's okay to go all in.

I had many "relationships", but with my wife, it was like cupid's arrow. It was instant, before I even spoke to her.

Then she just happens to be the perfect girl for me and she falls for me too : what are the odds?

Message from God himself ; there she is, go all in, right now. I just went for it, leap of faith.

There was no easing into a "relationship". It was head over heels in love, just like that.

Not everything is Freudian, some things are Intelligent Design. Divine Matchmaker.

[StCapps]

Yeah StA, Go Full Papist, if she stabs you in the back, that's on her. If she does do that, just gives you more time to try and find another who won't, though it would still suck obviously. But be careful not make your happiness dependent on her, then she has you by the balls, Smitty and DrYouth know.