Ph64 wrote: ↑Fri Aug 24, 2018 5:52 am
Martin Hash wrote: ↑Fri Aug 24, 2018 5:45 am
You’d think as a practicing attorney & doctor, I would have some experience talking with clients & patients about what they want? Plus, I’ve been married to a woman for 40 years, and have grown daughters. It must be my Toxic Masculinity preventing me from knowing what women want.
Nope. In my experience most women don't really know what they want. Or, at least, since they base it more on emotions than men, it changes like the wind changes direction. You give them what they just said they wanted, and 5 minutes later when they discover it didn't satisfy their emotions, they want something else... and possibly are now upset you didn't read their minds and know what they "really wanted" in the first place.
Just my personal experience though, and honestly my "female selection" gene is broken and out for repair.
Almost none of them really know what they want/need. What they think they want/need is almost never accurately what they want/need subconsciously, which is why increased freedom of choice for them leads to more unhappiness for them (demonstrable fact).
Further, they often are deliberately dishonest about what they
think they want/need.
Without a man who realizes this and somehow manages to navigate the drama to guide them to the correct wants/needs, their only hope for happiness lies in the small probability that what they lie about what they think they want/need is what they really want/need but remain mostly unaware of it.
Most men in our society orient themselves to serving women and derive their self-worth from female approval rather than approval from worthy males (huge life mistake, btw). This is why we have legions of blue pull men consciously deciding to become the beta role (which is not natural for us) so that they can gain female approval by giving women what women say they want/need under the mistaken assumption that women generally possess the same kinds of self-awareness and judgment faculties as men.
In truth women are very different from us. Where we lack a lot of natural social and interpersonal skills, they lack these faculties I described. We need each other to really achieve some modest happiness in life, and when we fuck this all up, especially by assuming each sex is more or less the same, we only increase our unhappiness.