My son....the felon
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My son....the felon
A brief history...my ex wife and I divorced after 17 years of somewhat blissful marriage. Our divorce was all my doing and my fault. I basically found someone who I could talk to and relate to. Doesn't matter but just a bit of history. After years of separation she refused to sign the papers, but the court didn't care. We have two boys together. One lives with her (he's 18 now) and one lives with me (17). My 17th year old destroyed my truck 3 weeks ago.
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Obviously he's been on restrictions. Tonight he ran into a convenience store and stole a couple of bottles of liquor. A good samaritan fought him and my son knocked out his tooth. He has such been arrested. He's going down a bad path, obviously. Appreciate any thoughts
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Hang in there. He needs someone to love him.
It's not easy to become an adult. We used to have rites of passage. I think we miss those in our modern society.
It's not easy to become an adult. We used to have rites of passage. I think we miss those in our modern society.
An nescis, mi fili, quantilla prudentia mundus regatur? - Axel Oxenstierna
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Sorry, man. I am not sure what to tell you to try.
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Send him to the military. see if the judge will agree to it for some kind of deferment.
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What is the quality of your relationship with him?
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Wow, that is tough. Obviously he’s got some things going on in his head that you’ll have to guide him through.
Try not to beat yourself up too much. He is making his own decisions now.
Try not to beat yourself up too much. He is making his own decisions now.
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“He’s under 18; he won’t be doing any time.” - Offspring
Don’t go all Tough Love. Just say things like, “I was an asshole too.” That way, whether he comes out of the skids or not, he’ll still feel like he can talk to you.
Don’t go all Tough Love. Just say things like, “I was an asshole too.” That way, whether he comes out of the skids or not, he’ll still feel like he can talk to you.
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They will not take him with that record.TheReal_ND wrote: ↑Fri Jan 25, 2019 5:39 amSend him to the military. see if the judge will agree to it for some kind of deferment.
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KTK, don't just give up on the military idea because of that comment. Every state's laws are different regarding juvenile offenses and pre-trial diversion, &c. You need to talk to a competent attorney in your town, ASAP. Get someone who knows the law AND the local juvenile court judge to give you the straight dope so you can evaluate options with your son.Speaker to Animals wrote: ↑Fri Jan 25, 2019 6:36 amThey will not take him with that record.TheReal_ND wrote: ↑Fri Jan 25, 2019 5:39 amSend him to the military. see if the judge will agree to it for some kind of deferment.
You're in a tactical situation right now -- Get competent advice immediately on what your best options are. Deal with incoming fire and then focus on big picture stuff.