Selfishness vs Selflessness

[Kath]

My wife doesn’t take any blame for my cheating and I don’t assign her any.
And yet she is finding room to grow as a person through this ordeal.
So most certainly she is an extraordinary person... but then she always was.
I on the other hand was a cheating slime ball... and yet I also am growing through this experience...
So weirdly in the end we both win.
But if I could take back the cheating, I would.
There are better ways to grow in this world than hurting the people we love.

Very eloquent. You're going to win this thing, together.

Suburban Farmer will be along soon to explain how you are wrong. Nobody agrees with him, though, so just ignore it.

[MilSpecs]

My wife doesn’t take any blame for my cheating and I don’t assign her any.
And yet she is finding room to grow as a person through this ordeal.
So most certainly she is an extraordinary person... but then she always was.
I on the other hand was a cheating slime ball... and yet I also am growing through this experience...
So weirdly in the end we both win.
But if I could take back the cheating, I would.
There are better ways to grow in this world than hurting the people we love.

Loving this whole post.

[SuburbanFarmer]

My wife doesn’t take any blame for my cheating and I don’t assign her any.
And yet she is finding room to grow as a person through this ordeal.
So most certainly she is an extraordinary person... but then she always was.
I on the other hand was a cheating slime ball... and yet I also am growing through this experience...
So weirdly in the end we both win.
But if I could take back the cheating, I would.
There are better ways to grow in this world than hurting the people we love.

Very eloquent. You're going to win this thing, together.

Suburban Farmer will be along soon to explain how you are wrong. Nobody agrees with him, though, so just ignore it.

[GloryofGreece]

There a couple of things I really regret doing since I was say in high school. Almost all of the bad choices I've made that I actually feel bad about and wish I could do it over again involve hurting someone else. It sucks b/c in a lot of ways If I really try to flesh out why I did what I did I can't come to any rational reason/s really. It was selfish or it was pure momentum/ emotion / impulsive and a bad decision in hindsight. And no, I'm not simply talking about romantic relationships or "cheating". I really don't think I was a fully functioning conscious being until about 25 years old and even then it was a stretch. More like about 30.

[SuburbanFarmer]

There a couple of things I really regret doing since I was say in high school. Almost all of the bad choices I've made that I actually feel bad about and wish I could do it over again involve hurting someone else. It sucks b/c in a lot of ways If I really try to flesh out why I did what I did I can't come to any rational reason/s really. It was selfish or it was pure momentum/ emotion / impulsive and a bad decision in hindsight. And no, I'm not simply talking about romantic relationships or "cheating". I really don't think I was a fully functioning conscious being until about 25 years old and even then it was a stretch. More like about 30.

Same. I was a freaking idiot until 30.

[DBTrek]

There a couple of things I really regret doing since I was say in high school. Almost all of the bad choices I've made that I actually feel bad about and wish I could do it over again involve hurting someone else. It sucks b/c in a lot of ways If I really try to flesh out why I did what I did I can't come to any rational reason/s really. It was selfish or it was pure momentum/ emotion / impulsive and a bad decision in hindsight. And no, I'm not simply talking about romantic relationships or "cheating". I really don't think I was a fully functioning conscious being until about 25 years old and even then it was a stretch. More like about 30.

Same. I was a freaking idiot until 30.

... nah.
Too easy.

[Fife]

... nah.
Too easy.

The better part of
valor is discretion; in the which better part I
have saved my life.

[SuburbanFarmer]

... nah.
Too easy.

The better part of
valor is discretion; in the which better part I
have saved my life.

MHF - where no good comment goes unpunished.

[Okeefenokee]

The fuck is goin on in here?

[DBTrek]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.