Dr. Martin Hash Podcast

Marriage has always benefited men more than women; traditionally men got a domestic servant, nanny, and most importantly, a nightly sex partner, while women used to get protection & security, but in a civil society, both of those qualities have been supplanted by The State, so there’s nothing evolutionarily appealing about monogamy, while hypergamy, the search for ever better mates, is in their genome. That’s why laws and religious condemnation against divorce used to be so strict, because most women would seek to escape the servitude of marriage, and unfettered by those restrictions, it's almost always the woman, 80% of the time, who initiates divorce now.

The reasons for divorce differ between the sexes; for the wife, the top causes are:

1. Lack of emotional support.

2. Lack of reassurance.

3. Finances.

4. Expectations not met.

5. Infidelity.

6. Lack of romance.

7. Abuse.

The top reasons men get divorced are quite different:

1. Loss of sexual attraction.

2. Denial of sex.

3. Infidelity.

4. Disrespect.

5. Feels neglected.

6. No longer idealized.

7. Finances.

The reasons only partially overlap; women are looking for sympathy, men are expecting sex.The mundane difficulties of a marriage; the daily drama, unruly children & lack of commonality, only contribute to its demise. Once contempt sets in, the marriage is over. With differences like these, it's remarkable anybody stays married.