Social Justice Warriors Thread

[Smitty-48]

It was quite the moment tho, let me tell you.

I looked around the room.

My brothers were bawling.

My wife was bawling.

The doctors and nurses were bawling too.

[heydaralon]

Glad your dad lived with relative dignity up until his last day. I have seen my grandmother half naked on her bed, lying at a weird angle babbling and sobbing and just terrified. To me, that was way more upsetting then when she actually died a few days later. You expressed how your dad was worried about making a scene, as dumb as it sounds that is also what I am worried about. If you lose your mind, you can't know what you'll say and what secrets you will reveal about yourself. Embarrassing shit. From I have seen people with dementia are never deluded in some happy fantasy. They are like scared toddlers who also have a temper tantrum. Fuck that.

[Haumana]

It was quite the moment tho, let me tell you.

I looked around the room.

My brothers were bawling.

My wife was bawling.

The doctors and nurses were bawling too.

Surreal, really. I had already had that moment about 6 months earlier when I saw his face after he found out that he was no longer a candidate for transplant and the end was a foregone conclusion. I am not sure what that meant to everyone else in the room but that is when I grieved with him. Formalities were just that, for me.

[Smitty-48]

It was quite the moment tho, let me tell you.

I looked around the room.

My brothers were bawling.

My wife was bawling.

The doctors and nurses were bawling too.

Surreal, really. I had already had that moment about 6 months earlier when I saw his face after he found out that he was no longer a candidate for transplant and the end was a foregone conclusion. I am not sure what that meant to everyone else in the room but that is when I grieved with him. Formalities were just that, for me.

I know that feeling too.

I was with him when the doctor said he was terminal and there was no operation which was going to save him.

That's an island, you're all on your own then, people can keep you company, but they can't be on the island with you.

[Haumana]

I know that feeling too.

I was with him when the doctor said he was terminal and there was no operation which was going to save him.

That's an island, you're all on your own then, people can keep you company, but they can't be on the island with you.

Yeah, I think I was the only one in the room focused on his reaction to the doctor's news. Everyone else was busy paying attention to the doctor. It only mattered whatever the guy was saying meant to Dad and it was crushing.

[Smitty-48]

My Da took it like a man tho.

He didn't cry out.

He didn't bawl.

He was stoic.

Kept the good times rolling to the very end, for his sons.

That's all that he wanted, be a man to the end.

Bravo Zulu.

[Haumana]

My Da took it like a man tho.

He didn't cry out.

He didn't bawl.

He was stoic.

Kept the good times rolling to the very end, for his sons.

That's all that he wanted, be a man to the end.

Bravo Zulu.

Mine too. "It is what it is. Now what can I get done for everyone I am leaving behind." is how he conducted the rest of his time.

That's all that he wanted, be a man to the end.

I spent the last 46 days away from home to make sure he got to do that, as best as I could as the eldest and only son.

[Smitty-48]

One thing was good for my ol' man was in home palliative care.

He just hated the hospital.

He just wanted to be in his own house.

And he was, until the final two hours, and he was unconscious for most of that.

[Haumana]

One thing was good for my ol' man was in home palliative care.

He just hated the hospital.

He just wanted to be in his own house.

And he was, until the final two hours, and he was unconscious for most of that.

Yupper. "Fuck that Dad. We are going home!" He was conscious up until the 30 minutes or so. Last 7 days, no food and essentially no water. He was a rock.

[Smitty-48]

In the end, my Da died in his sleep.

Because the actual five minutes where the machines clocked him out, he was unconscious.

It's not that bad. It's over pretty quick. You're probably going to be asleep when you cross the river.