Selfishness vs Selflessness

[SuburbanFarmer]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

Yep, that about sums it up.

[Okeefenokee]

ugh

[MilSpecs]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

The female members are doing the exact opposite.

[DrYouth]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

How exactly am I self flagellating?

[DBTrek]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

The female members are doing the exact opposite.

I’m sure they think they are.

But every time he bleeds you all gush about how proper and healthy it all is, and clap your dainty laced gloves together for more.

“Oh, so good of you to wear your crown of thorns sir. Presss it a little deeper into your brow, it’s working wonders for your complexion! There you go. Looking fit! Your future is surely brighter. Maybe just one more shove over the ears ...”

[DrYouth]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

How exactly am I self flagellating?
I'm simply not accepting victim status for my own crimes...
That's self flagellating now?

[Okeefenokee]

That's what I'm seeing.

Not dr y.

[Kath]

MHF worst relationship disasters are advising Dr. Y on women while the female members are applauding Dr. Y’s self-flagellation and cheering him on for more blood.

I will try an alternate response and you tell me if it's more appropriate.

My wife doesn’t take any blame for my cheating and I don’t assign her any.
And yet she is finding room to grow as a person through this ordeal.
So most certainly she is an extraordinary person... but then she always was.
I on the other hand was a cheating slime ball... and yet I also am growing through this experience...
So weirdly in the end we both win.
But if I could take back the cheating, I would.
There are better ways to grow in this world than hurting the people we love.

Damn, dude, just show her whose boss! Whip it out and tell her to suck it hard before you walk out on her. This really is her fault, after all.


Better DB? One of the genuine people around here who considers us friends, and you expect us to dump on him? dufuk?

[Okeefenokee]

who's

[DBTrek]

How exactly am I self flagellating?
I'm simply not accepting victim status for my own crimes...
That's self flagellating now?

Maybe you’re not.
I guess it depends entirely on what one considers an appropriate number of confessions and apologies.
My take on it is you owed us none, and showed good character by offering one.
Each repetition after one, for me, seems like delivering a beating to yourself. And when repeated confessions or apologies are encouraged by “the crowd” the line between ownership and spectacle starts to get blurry.