I think if you are basing most of your interactions off of a sense of reciprocity then that is one thing, but if you are predetermining your interactions in a way that helps to extract a measurable return then you are at least highly narcissistic veering into sociopath territory.Speaker to Animals wrote: ↑Sun Jan 27, 2019 11:47 amAnother interesting aspect:
Some of the most charitable and caring people I encountered professionally while working in an urban area were from tribal parts of the world, and the local urbanites who got into that career field were generally stunted in sympathy and empathy for others.
I don't know how else to explain this, and it took me many years to see it and process it for what it really is, but urbanites (in general, not all of them) tend to only care about others in their group insofar as they see a personal benefit to themselves. If you just express that sentiment neutrally, I think most of them would agree with it. To them, everything in a group of any kind is like an economic contract where they need to conclude they are receiving a value in return for what they are giving. Even their personal relations they tend to see a kind of give and take contract.
But if you explain to them that there are people who do not think that way at all, I think most of them will disbelieve it.
I also think that there are a relatively smallish percentage of intelligent people that honestly believe most people operate in a hyper cynical *(they'd call it realistic) self serving framework. If they are doing something good or nice etc. for someone else either it serves an evolutionary purpose at best or its for their own gain in most cases. These type of people are not a significant part of society from experience and my suspicion is part of what drives these thoughts they have is 1). high in trait neuroticism 2). low in sociability and empathy 3). view themselves as "intelligent" 4). spend a lot of time in their head 5). are deeply afraid of appearing naive.
These type of people usually cannot believe anyone that is of average intelligence can genuinely believe in mysticism, mystery, or miracles etc. nor can they understand why people would do things that do not translate into financial or status gain. They cannot fathom a world where other values are on a higher level and just a real. Furthermore, they also often see their own ideas and worldview in historical people throughout time and in position of power. For example, Alexander the Great or Napoleon or any political actor that had immense power had to do things for status acquisition primarily and exclusively. There is no way someone that is intelligent and skillful would at the same time be religious in any meaningful way.