You probably were given a chance to address it and didn't recognize it.heydaralon wrote: ↑Sat Dec 15, 2018 4:21 pmIf I have a problem with you, and I say it to your face, that is honorable. If I go behind your back and "ally" with other people of low character by talking shit and so forth without giving you a chance to address it or defend yourself, that is dishonorable. There is no culture or society on Earth that I know of that considers backstabbing and behind your back gossiping as a laudable trait.MilSpecs wrote: ↑Sat Dec 15, 2018 4:06 pmAgain, this is just a different style and you're not understanding how the conflict is processed and resolved. First, I totally don't get the part about someone not knowing why she's angry. I've never had that experience, nor do any women I'm close to. The fight thing: the conflict wasn't resolved or she's just someone who doesn't let things go. Women grouping together to resolve a conflict is how we do it. Before I go to war, I'm going to make sure I have allies. "Underhanded and dishonorable" is like women saying men are "bullies and creeps." Its just a different way of resolving conflict.heydaralon wrote: ↑Sat Dec 15, 2018 3:25 pm
Definitely don't handle it better lol. Women get angry about stuff and they often do not even know why they are angry. Sometimes, they will even admit it openly. Every man with a wife, mother, or a sister can attest to this. If you are dating a woman, she will say its all good after a fight and then let their anger fester until it starts another one. Rinse and repeat. And that's just open conflict. From my experience, women tend to gossip more and spread fucked up rumors, especially in the workplace. I have confronted women at my workplace about talking shit about me to my boss, and they just get flustered and deny it point blank even if I overheard her saying it. Women are not physically as strong as men, so from an evolutionary standpoint it would make sense for them to not want to initiate a conflict directly, as they would in all likelihood lose. The underhanded sort of dishonorable route is their MO.
Milspecs logic: "That's just how jihadis fight bro. American soldiers will get in uniform, and attack military targets, whereas the Jihadis will intentionally bomb an Ariana Grande Concert and attack civilians. You don't understand. Its not that one of those things is less honorable, they are just different is all."
You're again conflating how men would deal with a conflict and how women might. Women, given the chance, wouldn't bomb anybody. Violence is usually not honorable to women at all - it's bullying.
It's funny, you have me thinking about my dad. He used to say that women's greater facility with words during heightened emotions made him crazy during arguments. Husband is the same way. He yells and I see yelling as bullying. We are indeed very different in how we see a 'fair fight.'